Parenting Arrangements for Children

It is a child’s right to spend time with and know both their parents unless there is a very good reason not to and that put simply is how we see it at H F Family Lawyers. The type of things one needs to think about when dealing with children are:

  • where the child will live and with whom;
  • arrangements for the child and the parent with whom the child does not live to spend time with and communicate with each other whether in person, over the telephone, letter, email or by computer; and
  • any particular matter which requires mention. For example, sometimes parents want to specify particular arrangements regarding a child’s education, medical treatment or any other of the myriad issues relating to a child’s upbringing and welfare.

Matters relating to a child sometimes involve not only the parents but also the grandparents, other relatives or people who have acted as foster parents. The Family Law Act recognises that these people may be integrally involved in the children’s lives and, indeed, the Act makes specific reference to the rights of grandparents to seek orders relating to a child.

Parental responsibility

Each parent has equal shared parental responsibility for their child unless a court has ordered otherwise. Obviously when parents are separated the parent with whom the child lives will automatically assume responsibility for a lot of the day to day issues such as deciding on the child’s bedtime and so on.

But each parent still has equal shared parental responsibility for their children, meaning that decisions on major long term issues should not be made without consulting the other parent first. Major long term issues include education, religious and cultural upbringing, health and even choice of name.

Formalising parenting arrangements

Some parents like to formalise their arrangements while others like to keep their arrangement informal.

Matters relating to the child are best worked out by parents as they are the people who are going to have to live with the arrangement and make it work. If the parents cannot resolve any issues, usually the first port of call will be a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner.

Parenting Plans and Consent Orders

In the event that parents reach agreement about these issues (whether by their own efforts or with the assistance of a Counsellor, Mediator or Dispute Resolution Practitioner) they can have that written out in the form of a Parenting Plan or Consent Orders.

A Parenting Plan is a written document which sets out the parenting arrangements the parents have made for the children.

Another way to formalise the agreement is to enter into Consent Orders. Subject to approval by the Court, the agreement between the parties will then be made by an Order of the Court, you do not need to attend Court to have these type of Orders made.

Court Proceedings

In the event that the parents are unable to reach agreement, they may bring an application to the Court. Generally, the matter will go to a conference where, if it is unable to be resolved, directions will be given for the preparation of the matter for a Court hearing and an approximate date will usually be given for the hearing. In urgent and deserving matters the court will make interim orders usually based on affidavit evidence and submissions made to the judicial officer hearing the matter.

The Court always has to make orders that are in the best interests of the children.

Family Reports

Often at issue is the relationship of the child with a particular person, or what one party claims are the wishes of the child as to whom the child wishes to live. If the matter is to go to a hearing, an Order is often made for the parties to attend with a clinical psychologist for the purpose of the preparation of a Family Report. The parents, the child and any other significant person as decided by the report writer are usually asked to attend and a detailed written report is prepared. That report is released to the parties prior to the matter going into Court and is often used by them and their legal advisers as a basis on which to negotiate a settlement. If the matter proceeds to a hearing, the report is used to assist the Judge in dealing with issues such as the child’s wishes.

Independent Children’s Lawyer

In difficult matters, such as those where there is particular bitterness between the parents, where there is a suggestion the children should be separated from each other, where there is an allegation of child abuse, or where there is a cultural difference between the parents (for example because of them having different ethnic backgrounds), an Independent Children’s Lawyer can be appointed by the Court to look after the child’s best interests.

Best interests of the child

In deciding what Orders to make, the Court must consider the best interests of the child as the paramount consideration. The Court generally takes the view, that unless there is evidence to the contrary, it is in the child’s best interests to have a relationship with both parents and that is the view of all at H F Family Lawyers. We are not interested in acting for people who use their children as pawns for financial gain or causing their former partner grief and pain.


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